In tenth grade history I learned one of the most important lessons of my life. Mr. Heim (whose wife also taught history at our school, aww) told us that essentially every conflict in the world comes down to those that have, and those that have not. I’m not sure I fully agree with this, but I see where he was going with it, and it’s a thought that has stayed with me.
I usually consider myself a have not. (I know that there are starving children around the world and unemployment is the highest it’s been..um, ever, and I know that there are millions of people suffering from fatal illnesses so I should really just shut up and be grateful for hot water and a roof over my head. But the thing is, it’s hard to feel like a ‘have’ in comparison to those people because they aren’t in front of me. I’m not confronted by their needs every day, only my own. So if you think I’m selfish fine, it’s my blog.)
This morning I had a have not moment when my roommate’s sister surprised her by flying in for her birthday this weekend. Even though I was part of the surprise and able to vicariously enjoy it, it highlighted my have not status. Sure, I have a sister, but not the kind that would fly in to surprise me for my birthday. Or call for my birthday. Lying in bed at 6:30am this morning, hearing the squealing from the next room, I was jealous. Green grass jealous.
And then I started thinking about all the other things I have not (a valentine, a perfect nose, a disposable income, a vacation) and it was a bit of a spiral until my alarm went off. So, to snap myself out of this have not-edness, a list of ten things I have:
1. my job (especially after this week)
2. my parents (who celebrate 31 years of marriage next week)
3. chocolate-dipped rice krispie treats
4. self-control
5. my friends
6. romantic comedies waiting on my DVR and in theaters
7. warmer(er) weather
8. my new haircut (I’m not going to lie, I’m getting a little vain)
9. naturally blonde hair
10. free time (which I might not have as much of if I did have a valentine)
Happy heart-shaped food day