Archive for October, 2009

Doing my own haunting

October 31, 2009

I get ‘memory lane’ now. I really do. Yesterday afternoon I literally drove down memory lane, back through the neighborhood I grew up in. I wish I’d had a camera with me, but I’m sure one of these days I’ll go back with one. It’s a strange thing to be only 25 (still getting used to that number) and so nostalgic, but when you move around as much as I did, you can’t help it. Driving around yesterday I realized that I always figured I’d be back there someday, in what capacity I’m not sure, just back.

It’s surprising what changes, and what doesn’t. The Wawa is gone, but the post office is still there. All my friends’ houses are still there, the swim club, too. The place where I cut my knee and had to get stitches, the streets I used to trick or treat on, ride my bike on, the streets I took to get to school. It’s all still there, and I was disappointed and pleased at the same time how much of it was still the same. After 10 years, you don’t expect things to be the way they were, but you’re happy when they are. I drove by the old house, slowly, which probably made the people who live there now a little suspicious. I just wanted to see it. I half expected the plastic skeleton to be hanging from the big tree in the front yard like we always had on Halloween, but that tree was gone long before we moved.

Cliche as it is, you can’t go home again.

Life Lessons, ugh

October 29, 2009

Ever convince yourself you wanted something really badly…only to realize that you’d only felt that way because it was your only option? Sometimes it works out well: you don’t get into your first choice college but suddenly the dorms at your safety school make you forget about everything else.

It’s a really neat way of settling, don’t you think? One mechanism in a sea of coping mechanisms that keep us emotionally safe. (PS – Don’t you just hate the work emotionally?) Another favorite of mine: if I don’t try I can’t fail. I’ve been having the same conversation with quite a few people lately, and it boils down to that point. It’s time to stop putting off life; time to stop waiting for the ideal circumstances, waiting for ‘when’.Why settle for what’s convenient or available?

I had a script writing professor who always said you can’t see a negative. You can’t write what doesn’t happen, only what does. People can’t see that I want to be a writer or I want to learn to bake just about everything or any number of other things I think about doing but don’t. So in this epic time of AFTER, I’m going to try to do those things.

Hold me to it, OK?

after the after

October 21, 2009

I won’t lie: I’ve been putting off life for the past two months.

The GRE was a big time-suck for the past eight weeks or so, and all the little (and not so little) tasks were put off until AFTER. “AFTER the GRE I’ll start playing piano again.” AFTER became this sort of mythical time period that I am now sort of living in, since I took the GRE last Wednesday. Only, AFTER sort of stretched out to include AFTER my birthday. Which it now is. Oy. Nothing like accountability to ruin your day.

Things I said I’d do AFTER:

-start grad school applications

-return to the gym

-finish unpacking  (most of my life is still in the horrible, spidery basement)

-laundry

-stop eating everything within arm’s length

-get back to writing

-whiten my teeth

-grocery shopping

-start any number of craft projects/hobbies that I think would be good for me